Category Archives for "Mindset Shifts"
Many people fear being assertive.
They might be scared it will drive people away or they will be viewed as rude or mean to others. Often, they are confusing assertiveness with aggression. While both imply the person is tough, there are a number of differences. Being aggressive means someone is a winner, and therefore someone is a loser…Continue reading
Overwhelm is an invitation to turn lovingly towards yourself, to care for your body, to tend to your emotional needs, and to change unhealthy habitual thoughts and self-talk.
A common reaction to overwhelm is to brace against it, turn away from it, and distract our selves in an effort to cope and feel better. But, problems are rarely solved by pretending they aren’t there…Continue reading
Our desire to build good habits is about making improvements, and can touch on any area of our lives.
No matter what area of our life we’re trying to improve, there are some universal challenges in adopting a new habit and in keeping with it.
A new habit, whether it’s stopping something you’re doing now or starting something you’re not doing yet, begins with two conflicting goals…Continue reading
One of the first steps to real change is self-acceptance.
This does not mean that you think you are perfect and have no need to change or grow. Rather, it means that you accept yourself as who you are now ~ in this moment ~ and offer yourself acceptance as you do you’ll continue to learn and grow and change. This positive self-talk is similar to the unconditional love a parent offers a child…Continue reading
When you want to be decisive, overthinking can stop you in your tracks. Overthinking can come in many forms. Overthinking can lead to behavioral problems.
One of the ways it can show up is analysis paralysis…Continue reading
Imagine you are walking through your grocery store, I live in the same small town that I grew up in, so going to the grocery store is often like a class and family reunion in one. This is a very real scenario in my life. You see a woman that you graduated with and she looks the other way without saying hi…….
One possible way this scenario plays out…Continue reading
A key component of being resilient (bouncing back) is maintaining mental flexibility and balance in your life as you deal with stressful situations.
I find that people are especially reactive to change in a way that does not promote well-being, due to a lack of mental flexibility…Continue reading
Recently, one of my colleagues trained for, and then ran, a 70 mile-long mountain ultra-marathon. Just a few years ago, he didn’t run at all, and in fact, running was a sport he didn’t like. I now consider this formerly irresponsible procrastinator to have one of the strongest willpower muscles of anyone I know. By gradually building habits, he was able to get his elephant into gear.
Many things you need to do in life are unpleasant at first…Continue reading
Mindfulness and self-compassion have increasingly received attention through mainstream media recently. The concepts are sometimes taught in schools, they are frequently mentioned in self-help articles and people from all walks of life are openly talking about the benefits.
Why? Because once you begin to fully engage in them, it changes everything…Continue reading
Overthinking can create a lot of stress and anxiety for people.
One of the main issues about overthinking is how difficult it can be to control it. There are specific steps you can take to overcome it because it generally doesn’t go away on its own…Continue reading