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How To Understand the Deep Psychology of Abandoholism: [Addiction to Emotional Drama + Chaos]

How To Understand the Deep Psychology of Abandoholism: [Addiction to Emotional Drama + Chaos]

A common and vexing problem keeping many of you on the outside of love is a condition of the heart that I call abandoholism. It occurs when abandonment takes on a mind of its own and becomes a compulsion. You’ve heard of foodaholism, workaholism, shopaholism, and, of course, alcoholism. Well, here comes another addictive pattern—abandoholism..

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Are You Communicating To Control or To Relate? [Differences Revealed + Examples]

Are You Communicating To Control or To Relate? [Differences Revealed + Examples]

When you communicate to relate, you place a high value on sharing authentic feelings in the interest of transparency. You let go of the need to control the outcome. This type of communication fosters knowing and being known. Communicating to control places a high value on getting a predictable outcome that does not challenge your ego’s defense structure…

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