Mind Over Mood: Here’s How Your Thoughts and Feelings Confuse You and What To Do About it

March 21, 2024

Alice Boyes sheds light on how we often confuse feelings with facts in her book, The Anxiety Toolkit.

“Thoughts are just thoughts; the problem is that we accept thoughts as true, and confuse feelings with facts.

Part of the reason this happens is memory bias: Your brain will tend to remember events from the past that match your current mood.

Because current mood has such a powerful effect on thoughts, consciously trying to recall evidence that you’re skilled and talented probably won’t feel very authentic or convincing when you’re feeling down.

If you know this is how your brain works, then you can discount some of the negative thoughts you have when you’re in a deflated mood.

Your thoughts will naturally improve when your mood improves.

Therefore, regaining confidence is often just a matter of being patient and waiting for a negative or anxious mood to pass.

Experiment: Have there been any times in the past when you’ve had “this is too hard for me” thoughts, those thoughts have been a false alarm, and you’ve managed to do the thing you feared was too hard for you?

Identify one example. Your example doesn’t need to be something huge. A small example will do.”

Alice Boyes, Author of The Anxiety Toolkit: Strategies for Fine-Tuning Your Mind and Moving Past Your Stuck Points

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