“The good news is that the moment you decide that what you know is more important than what you have been taught to believe, you will have shifted gears in your quest for abundance. Success comes from within, not from without.”
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
In this column, you will learn simple but powerful tips on how to develop an abundant mindset from a wide range of experts.
Clicking on the expert names below will take you to their individual blurb on cultivating an abundant mindset.
When I took my first Ashtanga yoga class I was overwhelmed and lost for most of the practice.
One of the things I enjoy about regular Vinyasa yoga is that, after years of struggling, I can now flow through the poses with ease. I’ve learned things that make me feel like I have moved from beginner to intermediate, and I enjoy this feeling.
And yet with this new class, I was right back at square one, sweating, groaning, stumbling and feeling weak and incapable. For months after I didn’t go back, but there was something about this, about the potential I saw in myself, that pushed me to want to try again. This practice had reopened something in me I had not embraced in years.
It was a feeling of being open and caring more about what I was experiencing than how I looked. It was a feeling that I had stepped back into a mode of receiving, of welcoming in new things.
When it comes to having an abundant mindset, one of the core tenets is a willingness to embrace new and unknown things.
This practice of learning new poses and finding, with patience and persistence, I could get into some of them, awakened something dormant yet powerful in me. It was as if my body was saying, look, you can bend this way and do this and you did not think you would ever be able to. There are so many things available to you that you block because of your own limiting beliefs.
In many ways, the Ashtanga yoga poses felt like metaphors for my goals in life. There are things I want, places I want to expand into, but to get there, I’m going to have get uncomfortable. I’m going to have to bend and reach and extend in ways I never did before. And I’m going to have to fall, fail and try and try again.
The things we desire in life, such as a bigger business, a promotion or just more abundance in general, will require us to step into new and unknown spaces.
It may be that we need to connect with new people, think about things in a new way, or that we will need to do things in a bigger way, a way that might even sound a bit scary right now.
As we grow into the areas that carry us forward, we will inevitably experience a learning curve. We will make mistakes, stumble and struggle to align with a sense of mastery in what is our own personal next level up.
This feeling that we are once again beginners in some way can oftentimes make us want to retreat and shrink back to what we know.
For example, we may see ourselves on stage speaking. Suddenly, a paid speaking gig falls right into our hands! But when we get up there, it’s all so new and unfamiliar that we jumble our thoughts and hear our voice crack with nervousness.
We may then feel we have failed, and this feeling might convince us it’s just not safe in this new arena. We decide to stay where we are, playing with what makes us feel confident and capable, but at the same time, stagnant and constricted.
If you are struggling to break through your own current bubble and keep falling away from the threshold, take heart.
Pushing past a comfort zone takes courage. It also generally takes more than one attempt, so don’t feel you’re doing it wrong if things don’t instantly fall into place.
One thing I’ve learned from my new yoga practice is that we can become masters of pushing through our comfort zones.
By embracing this mindset through something unrelated to our careers or passions, we take the pressure off.
After a certain amount of time, we will have literally retrained our brains. We will have created what are called neural networks, or clusters of brain neurons, that will fire up each time we take a new step. These neurons will fire in a way that say, “I know this feeling of struggle and discomfort. I’ve felt it before, it didn’t stop me then, and so it won’t stop me now.”
When I stepped off the yoga mat in my Ashtanga classes, I did not immediately realize what it had done for me.
But then I would hit challenges in my work sphere that would normally slow me way down, if not stop me altogether. But something was now different in me. I knew I could get past these obstacles.
I would pause and visualize myself trying to bend into a pose over and over. I would picture myself listening to the teacher, and attempting once more to move the right way. This would motivate me, and I would then look for books, podcasts or anything I felt inspired to seek out that would help me in my professional life.
In essence, I could no longer tell myself the lie that there are certain things I just can’t achieve.
I could no longer convince myself that there are things I will never reach. Mistakes and missteps no longer stop me, because as with falling off the yoga mat, I know I can always pick myself up and try again.
If you decide to play with a new sport, skill or hobby as a means to open up to change and growth, keep at it for at least a month. It takes time to reprogram the brain, but once you do, you will find you are a master of learning and growth. This mastery will become a solid foundation, and it will safely support your biggest and wildest dreams of abundance and success.
Melissa Field, Blogger and Explorer of Consciousness – www.melissa-field.com
As an author of an upcoming book, I’ve compared my writing to other authors over the years and felt desperately inferior.
Most self-help articles, books, and advice I've read encourage me to stop comparing myself to others.
"To compare is to despair," they say.
And because I've experienced the pain of looking at other people's successful careers, marriages, possessions, and more, and felt like I was failing in comparison, I've tried in earnest to follow that advice.
But recently, I realized that comparison itself isn't actually a problem at all. In fact, it can be a powerful tool for personal growth!
Here's what I mean.
To compare is inevitable.
If we are perceptive, aware people, we're naturally going to notice those around us and take note of how they are different from us. Social comparison is a hardwired into our brains. It’s called “self-other mergence” and it takes place in the frontal cortex.
We aren't likely to stop.
And this act of comparison, in itself, is nothing to despair about.
But it's that next step that often happens after the noticing that’s problematic: the feeling less than. She's got more money than I do. He has more followers on social media than I do. She's thinner. He's happier. And I'm falling short.
However, I believe there is a way we can use comparison to our advantage. Often a shift in our perspective is all we need to change our experience of life. This is how I’m shifting my perspective about comparing myself to others:
To compare is to research.
Instead of feeling envious of others or bad about myself because I don't possess whatever it is I'm noticing that someone else has, I consider it research.
The more I notice what the people around me do, be, and have, the clearer I become about what I want to do, be, and have. Sometimes I have an initial hit of envy and then realize, actually, I don't really want that.
Or maybe I notice my envy and then realize that means I've identified something I want. That's great! That means I have goals to work toward, dreams to pursue, passions to follow. What a gift! I love having goals!
I thrive when I'm striving ever forward, and this, again, is a perspective shift. I could lament that I don't have everything I want, or I don't have what he or she has, but I'd rather have passionate pursuits than already possess everything I'll ever want in my life. That would be boring.
Make the shift from competition to cooperation.
Comparison can give us clues to what we like, what we want, and how to get it. And when we see what others have, we know what's possible for ourselves.
Here’s my advice:
Instead of "I'm not good enough" try to insert these thoughts:
"I'm working on it."
"I'll get there too."
"I'm on my way."
"It's good to have a role model."
"I'm grateful for what I have/who I am/where I am."
We’re all in this together, folks. If I see you accomplish something, that means it can be done! When I see how beautiful other women are (you are all so beautiful!), I appreciate the qualities that make us each unique, and do my best to mentally acknowledge the special traits I have. The world would be a bland place if we all looked alike.
By making the mental shift from competition to cooperation, we can switch the story in our heads from one of envy to one of appreciation. And we can harness the power of comparison to propel us toward our dreams.
Kaia Roman, Author and Mindfulness expert - www.thejoyplan.com
Putting pen to paper can give us a happier, more intentional, more meaningful life.
Our thoughts create our reality and when we journal, we are able to consciously take control of the power of our thoughts. This helps us to manifest more of what we want in our lives such as abundance, peace, and joy, and to process, heal, and ultimately let go of what we want less of.
Here are some ways to use journaling to bring more abundance into your life:
Write down all the good that you already have.
Starting and/or ending each day with a gratitude practice is one of the simplest and most powerful things you can do to bring more of what you want into your life. This can be a simple list of what went right during the day, things or people you are glad to have and know, or anything else that feels positive to you.
Tracking the good shows the universe that you acknowledge and appreciate what good it’s flowing to you in the present moment and that you welcome more of it.
Having trouble getting started?
Keep it as simple and as general as you need to to get yourself into a positive mindset about the all the abundance you currently have in your life.
Did you wake up and breathe this morning? Plenty of people would give anything for the opportunity to wake up one more day.
When you woke up, did you open your eyes and see the world around you? The gift of sight is a precious one.
Do you have a roof over your head? Consider how much more unpleasant your life would be if you didn’t!
CHALLENGE: Spend 5-15 minutes each day for the next week making a gratitude list. At the end of the week, journal on what positive changes you have seen as a result of this simple practice.
Process the things you are having a hard time letting go of.
A journal is a great place to make sense of emotions that are overwhelming us and to become aware of thoughts and feelings that are holding us back from what we want in life.
Writing down the difficult parts of our lives gives us much needed clarity. It helps us heal ourselves as we go within and give loving attention to the places that are hurting and in pain.
In doing this, we become able to let go of the things that once had so much power over our lives and to move forward with a clear mind and a softened heart.
Use your journal to practice nonjudgmental curiosity in order to understand your hurt and pain more deeply and with less inflammatory thinking.
CHALLENGE: Spend an 30 minutes to an hour writing about one situation that has been weighing heavily on you.
Who is involved?
What about it is triggering for you?
What would you like the situation to become?
What would need to happen for you to be happy or find peace with the situation?
Since you can only change your own thinking and actions, what steps can you take today, independent of any other person or circumstance to start to heal?
Move forward in your life with intention.
Your journal is your place to dream big. You can use it to discover what you really want out of life and what would allow you to be the fullest, freest, highest version of yourself.
But we can’t get from where we are to where we want to be without a plan.
Your journal is the place to let go of the limiting thinking that holds you back. It allows your intuitive mind to explore the places that your rational mind says you can never go.
Note: aim to strike a balance between gratitude and peace in the present moment and the desire to continue to grow and expand. Journaling gives you space to both dream big and love what already exists at the same time. The more you are able to merge both sides of this coin, the more abundance your present and future selves will experience.
CHALLENGE: Take as much time as you need to complete the following exercise:
Imagine that it’s five years from now and you are living the life you were dreaming about today. Describe in detail what an ideal day would will look and feel like for you when this happens.
Some areas to consider:
What are the dominant feelings you have throughout this ideal day?
Who is in your life and what are your relationships like?
How do you spend your time?
What are your surroundings? Where are you located?
Is your ideal day structured or open-ended? Or a combination of both?
What smells, tastes, sights, and sounds do you experience as you move through your ideal day?
What is your mindset?
Journal on these questions until you have a very detailed description.
Mark the page in your journal and come back to it periodically. As you review it, allow yourself to experience the day in your mind. Let the feeling-tone of gratitude to be gently present as you do this. Practice feeling and knowing that you already have it. In your mind you already do!
Amy Beth Acker, LCSW - www.amybethacker.com
We all want to live with an abundance mindset – living life to the fullest, optimistically seeing all the possibilities life has to offer, taking full advantage of opportunities and adventures that come our way, gratefully recognizing all the beauty and blessings in our life, and inspired to chase our dreams.
However, this attitude isn’t always easy to maintain. Strong negative emotions like anxiety, fear, and depression can make us see the world in a limited way. We may develop a scarcity mindset, focusing on what we lack, our failures, and unfulfilled dreams. No one wants that!
What can help us to cultivate an abundance mindset?
Use writing as a tool. Since I’ve kept a journal since the age of 12 and am a writer by profession, maybe I’m biased. All the same, I’m a firm believer in keeping a journal. How can writing your thoughts and feelings help you achieve an abundance mindset?
Here are five important ways:
Write About Your Dreams
When you write, things come to light that, for some reason, don’t when you talk or think about them. You’ll remember what you want out of life, open up your mind to all the possibilities, and set priorities.
Journals are a safe place to think big. Outline your ideas, goals, and dreams without fear of any judgement. Don’t limit yourself with self-imposed barriers. Write down small steps you can take to achieve those cherished dreams and get started.
Have an abundance mindset. Instead of worrying about failing or what could go wrong, remember anything is possible! Make a list of all of the wonderful opportunities that may arise if you move forward and conquer your fears and self-doubts.
Write About Your Blessings
Take just five minutes each day and write down what’s beautiful in life and you’ll find the benefits reach far into other aspects of your life.
This simple task will help you appreciate life’s many gifts, acknowledge your blessings, and notice the ordinary moments that make a day special. You will develop a grateful attitude and focus on what you have instead of what you want.
If you prefer, use a gratitude journal. Paper journals or apps are available to encourage you to make a small list of things you can be thankful for each day. Use your senses and include simple pleasures such as the beauty of a sunset, the laugh of a child, the sound of a bird singing, a hug from a loved one, or the smells after a rainstorm. This is a great way to help you develop the sustainable habit of being thankful and cultivate an abundance mindset.
Write About Your Negative Feelings
A person with a scarcity mindset dwells on negative self-limiting thoughts and adopts a victim mentality. What can you do to avoid this type of attitude?
This may seem counterproductive, but if you express your negative emotions such as anger, sadness, pain, or fear in writing, you’ll release the intensity of those feelings. By doing so, you’ll open the way for more positive thoughts.
You’ll search for solutions and consider possibilities you can’t envision when your head is clouded with hopelessness, frustration, and self-pity. Problems and failures will become opportunities to learn and grow.
Write About Life Lessons
When you record significant lessons you’ve learned in life, you’ll gain a deeper understanding, insight, and wisdom to help you make better choices. Journaling can help you avoid repeating mistakes which leads to increased self-esteem, personal growth and, yes, an abundance mindset.
You’ll get to know who and what makes you happy and what situations and people to avoid. Seeing the difference will help you live an abundant life, creating memorable moments you’ll cherish forever.
Write About Your Personal Victories
If you write about your personal triumphs, you’ll have the confidence to get out of your comfort zone and discover new paths you may have never considered. Instead of fearing change, you will embrace it as a way to bring more excitement and adventure to your life.
On the flip side, when a seemingly impossible situation arises, you’ll be reminded that you have resolved and overcome previous dilemmas in the past and can do so again. As a result, you’ll find motivation and strength from earlier successes to prevail again.
So, for all the reasons I’ve outlined above, start a journal. The beauty of life is that you can change and adapt an abundance mindset. Use writing to help you do so. Life is short, so live large and embrace all the endless possibilities life has to offer.
Julie Gorges, Author and Blogger - www.babyboomerbliss.net
When you focus on what you want, everything else falls away.
Having an abundance mindset is not only about creating material wealth. It is much more than that.
It is how you see yourself, your life and your goals. How grateful and self-aware you are and how prepared you are to continue going in the direction you chose despite failures and obstacles along the way.
Just think about it.
- Do you react or respond to situations that are out of your control? Are you open to new experiences and learning, or do you believe that you know everything and thereby limit your learning and growth?
- Do you embrace or fear change? How welcoming are you to new possibilities and do you ever think of creating opportunities when there are none?
- Do you have a clear vision of your future or is it easy for you to return to your past?
You are the creator of your own reality. What you focus on, you create.
When you are absent-minded and tense, you cannot be present in the moment you are in. Only when you become aware of your thoughts can you make a conscious effort to think differently and focus on abundance instead of scarcity.
And once you master your mind and see things from a whole new perspective, everything else you want to create will follow.
Focus on finding clarity in your life
When you are confused, disorganized and constricted in your thinking, you only focus on what is not working. This makes you think that there are no options and that you have to settle for the situation you are in.
But you can actually change this by focusing your mental energy on the positive. Find clarity in the situation you are in and break it down into simple steps that will lead you to a solution. Pause. Take a moment to think and reflect. Trust your instinct and creativity and always believe that you have a choice.
Focus on being in charge of your life
You are not a victim or a product of your circumstances. Your life is in your own hands and you decide which way you’ll go.
When you feel emotionally drained and frustrated your judgment overpowers your mind and does not allow you to think clearly. This leads to anger and impatience that can influence every aspect of your life leaving you powerless and defeated.
But when you focus on the positive and look at the whole picture, you become more engaged and confident, which helps you move forward. You move away from all the unhealthy and unnecessary negativity around you, and start accomplishing more than you ever thought possible.
You realize that the life you have always wanted to live can be yours.
What you focus on expands. Where is your focus?
Always remember that your current situation is not your permanent destination and that you have the power to change it. Wherever you are in life right now and however you feel, know that you are one decision away from a completely different life. A life that you deserve.
Change is inevitable, embrace it and become part of it. Focus on what you have to gain, not what you have to give up.
Focus on what you want and what makes you happy. Focus on you.
Tee Sebastién, Life Coach - www.growbrilliant.org
Avoiding time wasters isn’t so much about not running into them but rather learn how lovingly kick them away from our lives.
Yes, instinctively, our gut tells us which people are “bad” for us. But we fail to honor our guts. Case-in-point? Everytime we go “I knew that person was bad/wrong”. That isn’t hindsight, it’s our brain rationalizing it all away so we keep the time wasters in our lives.
Pro tip: You can take care of your gut by taking probiotics. I like the ones from Doterra because they adapt to your body’s constitution and are absorbed by your system.
Let’s talk now about why we keep the time wasters.
It stems from a scarcity mindset— that no one will like you, that you won’t find anyone else better, that people will think worse of you. We hoard the time-wasters. But having fifty pairs of ugly shoes in your wardrobe you never wear doesn’t make increase your possibilities. It merely makes you miserable and feel cluttered.
Because you have no space to expand and let the awesomeness in.
Therefore, this scarcity mindset opposes abundance. So everytime you keep the time-wasters in your life, you are saying no to abundance.
Top tips to banish time-wasters.
1. Figure out why you’re keeping them there.
It will be rooted in fear. Fear of not being liked? Fear of not having a better opportunity? Fear of saying no? Our fears are as big as we give them space to grow. Simply ask yourself, “If my friend were in a similar position, what would I ask them to do?”
2. Learn how to say no.
I once read this illuminating snippet of wisdom— when your heart says no and your mouth says yes, you get sick. Amen to that. Often, learning to say no stems from picking up the right skills. Saying no doesn’t hurt someone else, as long as your intention is good.
You can say no firmly, kindly and lovingly. Such as “Right now I am unable to commit to this because I don’t think we’re a good fit, and I hope you find someone better”. Or, “I simply do not have sufficient time to devote my resources to this right now”. This way, too, you do not hurt yourself by saying yes to the wrong people.
3. Establish your boundaries and stick to them.
People are often confused by the difference between standards and boundaries. Put simply, standards are the things we say “Hell YES!!” to , and boundaries what we say “Hell NO!” to. Most of us aren’t aware of the things we simply do not accept, and when confronted with them, feel bad for even feeling like we can’t accept them anyway.
Please do not judge yourself for having these boundaries and standards— there are people out there (those with narcissistic personality disorder, for instance) who live to trample on your boundaries. It’s good to know what you want. This way, you become a magnet for what you want.
4. Quiet the chatter in your mind
Besides skills, our busy minds can be our worst enemies. We judge ourselves all the time, replay situations and conversations for the umpteenth time, or catastrophise ‘what-ifs’ in the most dramatic fashion. Of course we feel powerless to avoid the time-wasters!
Know that quietening your mind is easy. Simply feel your feet on the ground, or put your hands on your heart and sacral centre, feeling them as you breathe. The more you slow your body down, the more you can slow your mind down. Want more practice?
Remember, abundance is all about practice.
It’s about believing it intellectually and emotionally, infusing it into every cell of your being. The only way to do it is to go deep and understand your resistances, your stories and everything else that hold you back. Especially during those times when you feel unworthy and want to sabotage yourself.
Abundance, essentially, is about #DoingIsBelieving. The more you cultivate your Abundance muscle, the stronger it grows, and the prouder you’ll become of it.
Dr Perpetua Neo - www.perpetuaneo.com
Does the news feel depressing to you?
That might be because it can be. In fact, news tends to focus on deaths, war and violence, events that can be draining to watch and hear about. As a result of the disproportionate focus on negative events in the media, we can start to become negative and saddened and have an imbalanced view of the world.
In fact, several studies have demonstrated the deleterious effects that excessive media consumption can have on one’s mental wellbeing.
One study demonstrates that teens who are exposed to large amounts of media can be exponentially more at risk for developing depression. Other studies have explored how thinness depicting and promoting media appears to be associated with an increase in eating disorder symptomatology.
Excessive media consumption and time spent on the television and online has been associated with a low-activity lifestyle, sleep disturbances and decreased creativity.
It is a passive way of obtaining information that can result in our feeling helpless and inactive. Further, it can feel mindless, the opposite of being mindfully and actively present in the moment.
Instead, consider limiting media consumption just enough so that you can allow yourself to stay informed of local and worldwide events. One way to do this is to commit to only allowing yourself a certain amount of time each day watching the news.
You may be surprised by how much time can open up once you decide to make this change!
When making a plan on how best to use that time, consider what is important to you and structure your time and goals accordingly.
In the era of virtual connections, Facebook friendships have become commonplace. Studies have shown that these friendships cannot replace friendships that are cultivated by in-person time spent together; in fact, excessive time spent watching television and online often results in people feeling socially isolated.
Consider instead focusing on nurturing your relationships by spending time together in person, creating new memories, and having discussions that can be rewarding and stimulating.
If you’d still like to focus on world events and the news, consider sharing what you may have learned about current events with your friends so that you can have an active discussion that is balanced.
Understand that excessive watching of the news may have cultivated a negative outlook on the world and on humanity. The reality is that life and humanity have negative and positive aspects to them. You can obtain this balanced outlook through engaging in more activities that bring you joy and help you feel positive.
Look into activities and causes that are important to you; getting involved can remind you of how much of an impact you can have on your community.
For example, consider getting involved in the campaign of a local political candidate who has a similar set of beliefs and concerns. Other ideas are volunteering with local childrens’ hospitals, hospice groups or animal shelters. The possibilities are endless and can bring you back to a more positive place.
Consider using your newfound time in a mindful way.
Instead of passively watching the news, consider engaging in activities that require your full attention and active participation. Stimulate and challenge yourself through participating in activities that require your problem-solving skills and creativity.
News and the media play an important role in keeping people informed about local and international events. However, due to their tendency to focus on negative news, excessively watching it can result in our feeling helpless, negative and imbalanced. Paradoxically, it can leave us feeling simultaneously exhausted and agitated.
The first step toward cultivated a positive, abundance mindset is to limit your exposure to the media and instead focus on being mindfully present in your own life.
Dr Aparna Iyer – www.draparnaiyer.com
No matter how hard you work and how much potential of earning money you have, if you do not have an abundance mindset you will very likely not be rich or have a lot of money.
If you have limiting beliefs about how much money you can “possibly” make, you will not earn more than that particular income which you believe that you can earn, no matter how smart, hard working and good in money management you are.
If you have negative associations about the money (like for example that money is dirty or that rich people are not honest or that money corrupts people… ) you will unconsciously sabotage your self from having a lot of money as deep within you would never want to become corrupt, dishonest person (to match your belief system).
If you have a scarcity mindset about the money, you will never have “enough” money or a lot of money, as the scarcity about money always reflects your deep subconscious belief of money lacking in your life.
Here are ways you can start cultivating an abundance mindset:
1. Change your perception about the money
Make sure that you associate the money with opportunities to grow, charity work, contribution and making the world a better place to live, having more freedom in life, having more quality time that you can spend with your beloved ones, being able to buy a lot of gifts and support many people around you.
2. Give and it will be given to you
More you give, more you can receive! When we are giving to others, we always feel abundant as we would not be bale to help or give to somebody else if we do not have at the first place. Also, by giving aways money and other material goods we unconsciously detach ourselves from the money.
It is only when we are not attached to money that we can have it in large amount as it will help us to overcome the “scarcity mindset”. Make sure that you give donations, money and other material things on a regular basis. Get rid of old things or things you do not use (more valuable things, the better). Giving will always create the energetic and physical space in your life for receiving more.
3. Get unstuck from scarcity mindset
Imagine how would you behave and what would you do if you would have a lot of money? Put all the things that come to your mind on the paper and think of the ways that you can incorporate that behaviour patterns symbolically every single day in your life. Leave tips in the restaurants, buy good piece of jewellery or a nice watch that will serve as a symbol of wealth in your life, have dinner in an expensive restaurant, visit luxury stores…
Whenever you spend the money, bless it and be grateful that you could afford whatever you bought rather than regretting over the money you spent (big NO-NO if you want to cultivate an abundance mindset).
Whenever you feel that scarcity thoughts about the money are coming up, tell to yourself that there is always more where that came from and that you will earn or get that money again. Carry more cash in your wallet, surround yourself with images and symbols of luxury lifestyle, create a “rich version of you” vision board, dress and behave like that rich person you want to become.
It’s never about having the money: it’s about the lifestyle!
Danijela Jokic Vaislay, Life coach & motivation speaker – www.kissofhappiness.com
The fastest way to bring more wonderful examples of abundance into your personal experience is to take constant notice of the wonderful things that are already there. ~ Esther Hicks
To cultivate an abundance mindset its important to interrupt habitual lack thinking. One of the best ways to to this is through practicing appreciation.
The dictionary defines appreciation as, “The recognition and enjoyment of the good qualities of something or someone.”
Appreciation allows you to shift your focus away from what you don’t have and to focus your energy and attention on what you do have in the present moment. Since we draw into our lives what we focus on, to be abundant, it’s necessary to acknowledge and feel the abundance in your life now.
As you deliberately notice what you love about what you already have, you align yourself with Source Energy. When you are in a state of appreciation you are in a high vibration that is a match to abundance.
Appreciation is the absence of doubt, fear and anything that feels bad and is the presence of everything that feels good.
It is a releasing of resistance to your good and an allowing of the higher flow of abundance into your life. Your own resistance is the only thing that keeps you apart from what you desire and practicing appreciation puts you in the mode of receiving.
As you practice appreciation you will begin to notice that more and more things show up for you to appreciate. When you go through your day looking for things to appreciate, you begin to create a momentum.
So, how do you practice appreciation?
Here is a simple process:
1. Look around you and notice something in your environment that you feel good about.
2. Hold your attention on this thing and consider how wonderful it is. How is it useful, beautiful, or otherwise pleasing to you? You may even think “What do I love about you?” to get the energy flowing. The longer you focus on it the more your positive feelings will increase.
3. Notice your increased feeling of appreciation, and appreciate that.
4. Once you notice your feeling of appreciation has increased, look for something else to appreciate and repeat the process.
5. At first, it’s good to set aside 10 to 15 minutes each day for this practice. After a few days of deliberately practicing appreciation, you’ll find that you begin to do it automatically for a few seconds here and there because it feels so good. Then you will have created an abundance mindset!
Choose things that are easy for you to appreciate—this is supposed to be fun and its about practicing a higher vibration.
You’re not trying to fix things you don’t like. When you notice something or someone that you don’t feel good about, shift your attention to something that you do feel good about.
You can write this down in a journal, making lists of the positive aspects of the things and people in your life that you appreciate. You can also do this in your head anywhere you happen to be.
I often practice appreciation when I’m in my car driving. I may notice the clear, brilliant blue sky and sunshine that makes me feel good, or the way the traffic is moving smoothly, or the color of the trees and flowers in bloom. I appreciate my car for working so well and being so easy to drive. I appreciate the postal worker in my small town who is always so cheerful. I appreciate the bird song outside my window that is so delightfully musical.
As you go through each day, finding things to appreciate and focusing on all the wonderful qualities you enjoy, you are training your mindset into a high, positive and receptive vibration.
What you are living right now is the product of what you were thinking two or three months ago. Be patient and enjoy the process of appreciation and you will begin to see your outer world change into more abundance.
Estra Roell, Life Purpose Coach– www.americaslifepurposecoach.com
The qualities to create an abundant mindset in life are ones we all can develop.
For some, it may come naturally, but for most people, they have to make a conscientious effort to create gratitude-based thought patterns so they eventually become habit in even their subconscious mind. If you are someone who struggles to find abundance in life on a daily basis, know that our darkest hours end when we shed the light of abundance on our emotional garden. When we remember and see what’s most important, we grow in happiness and mindset.
The habits of thinking abundantly come through practicing and embracing the rituals and routines that build up our level of gratitude.
No, we may not have that beautiful new convertible like our neighbor, but, yes, we do have a reliable vehicle to take us where we need to go. An abundant mindset is innately aware that the grass may seem greener on the other side, but the green grass below us matters, as well.
At the root of all abundance is the practice of remembering that by us being present in the moment we can harness an abundant mindset.
Three ways to begin cultivating an abundant mindset are:
1. Remember how life’s best gifts often come in little packages.
There’s no need to think something “earth-jarringly big” has to happen in order to have something to be grateful for. In a simple smile, there is great joy to be found. Remember these smiles and special little treasures can create a powerful visual of the abundance you are living in, and surrounded by.
2. Take time for reflection and meditation.
Imagine it is the end of a rather arduous day. You sit down and are finally able to breathe in and relax. It’s time to shift that exhausted mindset into thought patterns that tap into what you have to be grateful for. Something did happen to remind you of the abundance your life holds, even if you didn’t acknowledge it at the time.
Maybe you walked into the break room and your favorite chocolate, gooey donut was the only one left on the platter. When you dropped your keys in the parking lot, they landed by a lucky penny. You got a n ice email from your college buddy, saying they were just thinking of a great experience you two had together.
If you cannot find something positive in your day to reflect on take advantage of those memories that warm your heart and remind you of how much you have to be grateful for.
3. Adopt an attitude of gratitude.
An attitude of gratitude is all about remembering the good times when you are facing a storm of bad times. We are all going to travel through valleys where we experience disappointments or things do not work out as we have planned. However, on the top of that valley you house your thoughts of abundance, shining down on you and giving you the right mindset to solve your problems and move on. Every tough situation doesn’t have to be our end-all if we can recall what we’re grateful for.
In order to begin reaping the benefits of an abundant mindset we must live in a world of thank you, thank you, thank you!
Don’t let anything hold you back from recognizing all you have to be thankful for. Gain the confidence to know that regardless of what storm you are in, you are the captain of your ship and guiding yourself to abundance. You can will it, and you will feel it. Yes, this takes practice, but it is authentic and becomes second nature when you are committed to being the master gardener of your abundance garden.
Lisa Cypers Kamen, MA – www.harvestinghappiness.com
When I first became interested in personal growth, I started exploring the beliefs and stories I was telling myself.
In the process, I noticed many of them were rooted in fear, negativity and scarcity. It took me a while to learn that to cultivate more of an abundance mindset, I had to first be aware of which current beliefs and stories were serving me and which weren’t. Self-Reflection has been my most valuable tool for personal growth and is something I continue to rely on to stay grounded, connected to myself, and hopeful about the future.
When I first started exploring personal growth, I wasn’t sure what self-reflection really meant in practical terms: how do youdo self-reflection and what does it actually look like? I believe the answers to these questions are personal to each individual.
Here are two key elements of self-reflection that have been invaluable for me:
As someone who is on the more introverted end of the spectrum, I find writing helpful for processing my thoughts and feelings. Getting thoughts, feelings and beliefs rooted in scarcity out of my head and onto paper helps me see them in a more objective light. This distance helps me unpack them further and ask myself: How do I want to feel about this issue? What would an abundance mindset look like here? Then I can practice rewriting the story I’m telling myself to become one that is more constructive.
Spend time with yourself
We are more connected than ever. While this comes with many benefits, it also comes with a shadow side. Used against ourselves, our hyperconnected world becomes a series of tools that feed comparison, fear of missing out, and other elements associated with a scarcity mindset.
When standing in a queue, waiting to meet a friend, or otherwise left with a few minutes to myself, my first temptation is to reach for my phone. I want more: more information, more photos, more insights into people’s lives, more stimulation.
But in this quest for more, I often ignore the truth: I have enough already. Learning (or, in the digital age, re-learning) to spend time with myself has been a valuable exercise in reconnecting with what I have in the present, rather than focusing on what I might be missing out on.
Hannah Braime, Coach and Writer - www.becomingwhoyouare.net
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