There is a difference between fearful thoughts and your body’s fight-or-flight response to a genuinely dangerous situation.
When you feel fear in a truly dangerous circumstance, your brain releases adrenaline and you also feel the sensation of opening, which signals that you need to take action.
Occasionally, you can simply express at the moment what you desire and the closing sensation will ease and disappear. However, people have layer upon layer of fears that have accumulated in their bodies over the years. So it takes a bit of digging to find the actual “bottom” of the fear.
This exercise can be used anytime you are feeling a powerful fear sensation and remain closed when you think about what you desire to have happen at that moment.
This means you need to “unlayer” the fear.
When you get to the end of the following practice, you will have expressed all your desires in the situation and you will have released the fear.
Take a piece of paper and draw a line down the center.
At the top of one column, put “Fears,” and at the top of the other put “Desires.”
Start at the top of the column labeled “Fears.”
Identify one of your fears and write it down.
Then ask yourself: What is the worst that could happen if this thing you fear were to happen?
Write down what you have identified as the worst that could happen.
Then ask yourself: What is the worst that could happen if that thing were to occur?
Keep doing this until you get to the point where you identify the absolute worst that could happen. You may need two or three sheets of paper. Often people can get to the worst within four to seven fears.
Then, starting at the bottom of the “Desires” column, directly across from the last fear, write what you desire to happen instead of that fear. Keep working up the list, stating what you desire.
This will be different for every person.
The bottom most desire is the desire that has been covered up over the course of many years.
It is the one most important for your soul and you to desire. This exercise erases years of fears and leaves you with new perspectives on what is really important to you.
See the example below.
· I fear that I will not be able to pay my mortgage.
· I will lose my home.
· I will be living on the street.
· No one will love me or help me.
· I will be totally ashamed of my life.
· I will want to die.
· I desire to easily afford my home.
· I want a stable income and to be able to care for my home.
· I always desire to have a lovely home.
· I want to be proud of my life.
· I want to always be filled with a desire to live.
Some people feel that if they state the worst thing that could happen, it could somehow come true. If you feel closed after you state your fear, this means it is not true and is not coming into your life. If you state a worst-case scenario that you fear, and you open, then the fear will still go away, but you will know you need to take action to prevent that scenario.
In all the years of doing this exercise with students, I have never had someone report that their fear overtook them and came true.
What you will find is that not stating the worst-case fear, and not finding the corresponding desire, lets the scenario remain in your mental framework.
This is more dangerous, and it will have you feeling more miserable than if you were to get to the bottom of your fears. Once the fear is gone, then you are free to focus on what you desire, and magical shifts will occur in your life.
Excerpted from the book Your Inner GPS: Follow Your Internal Guidance to Optimal Health, Happiness, and Satisfaction. Copyright © 2016 by Zen Cryar DeBrücke. Reprinted with permission from New World Library. www.newworldlibrary.com.
About the author
Zen Cryar DeBrücke is an author, consultant, personal coach and inspirational teacher who has worked with hundreds of business leaders and individuals to success in every arena. As the developer of the Internal Guidance System method, Zen has been blessed with the opportunity to build on 20 years of research and study on the subject of spiritual practice, somatic guidance and manifestation. She is the author of Your Inner GPS and is an internationally renowned teacher, speaker, and coach whose programs have helped people all over the world transform their personal and business lives for the better.
Visit her online at www.zeninamoment.com.